02 Feb Goal-Diggin’ like a Boss feat. Kassy
Every once in a while there’s a moment where it hits you that you’re not just speaking into the theoretical abyss—that there really are people hearing what you’re putting out there, using it as inspiration, and truly growing from it. And man, when that moment strikes… it’s a crazy feeling.
When I read the blog post I am about to share with you, I experienced one of those moments. The post was written by my studio manager, Kassy, and talks about the goal-planning workbook that I have my team complete each December, and how it’s changed her mindset over the past year.
Realizing that you are the inspiration for someone’s transformational journey, and then to feel inspired by reading about that journey… it just creates this amazing circle of inspiration, and I knew I had to share it with you all. Stay tuned for an upcoming goal-planning guide from yours truly, based on the same workbook referenced in this blog. To read more of Kassy’s blog posts, you can visit coffeeandquirks.com.
It’s that time again. Time for the infamous New Years Resolutions. A practice that began in ancient Rome when offerings and promises were made to the deity Janus–the god who gave January its name, New Years Resolutions have evolved to be promises made to ourselves of how we plan to be “different” or “better” in the new year.
A resolution is just a decision to do or not do something, but maintaining it relies on self-discipline–and we all have varying levels of that. I’ll be honest, I’m super jealous of everyone with great self-discipline. Mine sucks. Which is why I’ve never been good at resolutions, and blatantly refuse to make them. With my messy artist brain I’ve never even been good at setting goals. I have forever said that I’m an ideas person with terrible execution.
Then I went through a goal-planning workbook put together by my boss and my life changed forever. Dramatic, I know. But also 100% truth. So, I wanted to share with you all exactly why goal-setting is DIFFERENT than resolutions, and how to really change your life in 2018 (not just saying you will).
Resolutions vs Goals
A resolution is just a statement that you will or will not do something. It’s only as strong as your commitment to yourself or your personal discipline. And there’s no end date, so you have to maintain that strength of will for eternity. A goal, on the other hand, is something that requires a plan and is based on the idea that it will at some point be reached.
If you were to make a resolution regarding losing weight it would probably look something like this: In 2018, I am going to lose weight and get in shape. Translate that into an actual goal and you get this: I am going to lose 20 pounds by March 1st. I will do this by changing my diet to minimize sugar and working out three days a week.
There are steps to take and a timeframe, which breaks down the goal into more manageable parts and sets up a light at the end of the tunnel. Resolutions are also most often formed on an emotion, and emotions are unreliable. Goals take emotion out of the equation and set up logical steps that will reach the end point in mind.
Overcoming Planning Overwhelm
The goal planning workbook that I did last year, (and am in the midst of round 2 this year), is set around creating a 10 year plan and then breaking it down into more manageable steps. When I first sat down to create a 10 year plan I was so overwhelmed and lost I cried about it. If you know me, you know I don’t cry about much, but creating a plan for a whole decade felt impossible.
I didn’t even know what I wanted to do next week, no less next year. This plan works around the premise that if you could be anywhere doing anything in 10 years, what would it be and how would you get from where you are now to where you ultimately want to be. It then steps back 5 years (to 5 years from now) and you set up some goals that would be like a halfway point between current you and ten year you.
Finally, you make some goals that you can reasonably achieve in the next 12 months that will start you down the path towards that 10 year goal. Breaking down the “impossible” into smaller sections takes the overwhelm away and allows you to focus on the parts rather than the whole. It also takes the emotion out of the process, which allows you to think critically about where you want to be and how you can get there.
Creating Your Plan
Close your eyes for a minute. Imagine your ideal life. What would you dare to do if you knew you could not fail? Why aren’t you working towards that goal? Write it down. You are currently at point A and there IS a path that leads to point B (10 year goals). I’ll give you an example from my last year’s goal plan. One of my 10 year goals was to be a published author (of at least one novel).
That meant within my 5 year plan I needed to have some sort of writing published whether it was shorter works, blog posts, or articles. My manageable one year plan was to start dedicating time to writing again, so I decided to start a blog. Enter: coffeeandquirks.com. You can use this same structure for anything, and it doesn’t necessarily need to be ten years. Start out with one year.
Make it all about career goals (or fitness or personal–whatever you want to focus on). Decide where you want to be and what you would need to do to get there. Write it out. Post it up somewhere you will see regularly. Rely on cognitive dissonance. (Psych nerd joke).
Why Mindset Matters
There’s one last aspect to goal-setting that is absolutely necessary to make all of the planning work. Your mindset makes a difference. In fact, it makes all the difference in the world. You have to a) believe your goals are achievable and b) believe in your own ability to reach them. Then you have to commit to following through.
Without faith in yourself, and commitment to putting in the work, the goals will just remain words on a piece of paper. It’s not just about putting it out into the universe and waiting for it to happen–it’s actually being willing to spend the time and energy on your goals in order to get where you want to go.
But if you were honest and true in setting your end goals, then the reward for your energy and dedication is 100% worth it–what wouldn’t you do to make your dreams come true?