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Calling All Creatives… Are You Ready to Garnish Your Growth?

It’s official—I’m crossing something off of my bucket list! For years I have wanted to start a YouTube channel, but as an artist who is a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to my work, I knew if I was going to do it, I wanted to do it well. I wanted to have it be well thought out and have the layout and details just the way I wanted them.

I even considered doing a podcast instead, but I’m such a visual person myself that video and YouTube seemed like the way to go for me. So, I wanted to officially introduce you to one of the main focuses of my YouTube channel, a segment called “Garnish Your Growth.”

You all know I’m obsessed with personal growth and often speak on both personal and business growth on Instagram along with when I teach for BMS. Because of this, I’ve cultivated a variety of topics I like to share or speak on, and am looking forward to doing so even more through this new video avenue. Each Garnish Your Growth video will be a 10 to 15 minute conversation between myself and my lead stylist, Niko. We talk about hard topics, funny topics, pretty much anything that pertains to growth.

Topics you can look out for are how to build a squad and hire the right team, how to do hard shit like transitioning a business and all the maneuvering that that requires, and many more.

I want to stress that you do not need to be a creative or in the beauty industry in order to connect with and appreciate these videos. My purpose in creating them is to speak about tough shit that not everyone likes to talk about, but so many business owners go through. The best part is that there’s no offer on the other side, there’s no gimmick—it’s just Niko and myself offering transparency in a very vulnerable way. In my experience, when going through one of those tough circumstance, the only way to get through it is to talk about it in a productive way.

It’s my hope that me sharing my story will resonate with other people who have gone through or are currently experiencing a similar situation.

I can’t wait to share the upcoming launch with you all in the next few weeks. Stay tuned on my social media channels for the most up-to-date information on what we’re sharing when!

Recently, I had a conversation with a guest that really got me thinking about the beauty industry, and how much it has changed over the last decade. Everything from eyebrows, to lashes, to hair extensions has completely evolved to look more natural and provide an even better result. The technology of pretty much everything—from healthier hair color to more effective lash glue to the science of botox and fillers… it’s incredible to think about how much has changed and how significantly.

Ten years ago, it was tattooed everything. Whether makeup or eyebrows, tattooing was pretty much the only option. Cosmetic artistry has made huge advancements even in the last few years. Now, you can have your brows powdered, ombred or microbladed, and they look so much better (and not at all like tattoos.) The world of lash extensions has also advanced in so many ways. They used to be just strip lashes or clusters that would take forever and cost $400, and now we have all kinds of choices. Mink lashes, different lengths, different curves, and options like Amazing Lash.

Medical advancements inside of the industry have also taken a huge leap up. Botox and fillers used to just be for wrinkles, and now they are being used to contour, create jaw lines, and even enhance booties. Everything from lasers to medispas has changed and improved. Even the options for plastic surgery have gotten so much better than years ago.

The hair industry has evolved in much the same way. Both hair color and lightener have improved in how they affect the health of the hair, and in the results we are able to achieve with them. And having specialized in extensions for the past decade, I can tell you firsthand just how much they have changed. What used to be hand rolling fusion hair extensions that did the job but weren’t the prettiest, has now become full, seamless hand-tied hair extensions. Hand-tied hair also comes in more colors and textures, and can be worn in pretty much any style. Gone are the days of low ponies being the only possible way to tie back your hair extensions. Now we can wear top knots, pigtails, big fluffy braids, and no one is the wiser.

 

The evolution of technology is so inspiring to be a part of within the beauty industry. Even looking back on hair transformations I loved years ago, I can see how much different that guest would look with today’s hair extensions. Having NBR hand-tied hair extensions as an option for my guests is life-changing. Everything today looks so much more natural, which is always the goal. I can’t wait to see how the industry continues to evolve and grow, as technology continues to improve with time.

Microblading

Microblading by @ivey_artistry
What’s your favorite aspect of the industry that has changed? Brows, lashes, botox?

Drop a comment below and let me know!

I’ve shared with you all before about the transition of my business from Garnish Hair Studio to Garnish Extension Studio, and talked a little bit about the why. Recently, Niko and I sat down with a videographer to chat about the transition of Garnish and really dive deep into the behind the scenes of every facet. We told ALLL the dirty deets. We shared about the very first conversations when I made the decision to transition to extensions only. I shared my thought process, the steps we took, and how it all went down. Niko shared about her decision to leave… and then how it evolved into her decision to stay.

It was honesty hour all around!

I wanted to take some time to be completely open and transparent about the process and that includes all of the doubt and uncertainty that I experienced, the intense training involved, and ultimately how the evolution took place. At the end of the day, it was my faith in the process, and trust in my vision that led me through the experience, but man, was it challenging. Despite the challenges, beginning in January, Garnish officially became my dream salon—exclusively catering to extension guests. With that came a lot of changes, including our entire process, the way we think about hair (from an extensions mindset), and the focus of all of our training.

As Niko and I shared our sides of the story, and I talked about what an impact she has had on my business, I even got a little emotional. When you have someone who believes wholeheartedly in your vision and comes along with you for the ride no matter what—it’s an incredible feeling. Talking about Niko’s role in Garnish led me to sharing her growth as a stylist evolving into our Lead Stylist and Floor Manager and sometimes Academy Trainer as well. It also gave me the opportunity to share her part in allowing me to really go full force into MY new role as NBR platform artist and BMS Trainer. Having Niko as a leader in my space has given me the freedom to pour into these new opportunities, including flying out to California for training as needed.

NBR Hair Extensions Garnish Studio

I would love to invite you to watch our video, hear our story, and get to know the new Garnish. I am so grateful to the women who entrust my studio with their extensions transformation experience, and we wouldn’t exist as an extension-exclusive salon without each and every one of our guests. Everything it took to get here may have brought difficulty and sometimes painful growth, but where we are now is so beautiful to be a part of that it was far and beyond worth the entire experience. I can’t wait to continue to share my studio’s growth with all of you.

Thank you for being a part of the journey.

We all remember the days… when Summer was full of drinking, spontaneous fun, traveling, and just having a good time. It was all care-free and sunshine. Summer as a mom is a completely different story. Summer camp, lack of routine, no school—Summer is now all about regulation and responsibility.

First of all, in order to be prepared for Summer, you have to get started way back in January. Who knew you had to register for summer camp 6 months before the actual camp happens?? Deciding on camps, and how long they are in each camp, etc, it all takes a lot of coordination. Speaking of coordination… when the littles are out of school and work and travel doesn’t slow down, the co-parenting suddenly becomes way more complex. Communication, scheduling details, and flexibility all become super important. I’ve been traveling a lot for work lately, and it’s required a lot of adulting to make sure everything is situated and taken care of while I’m away.

Summer NBR Hair Extensions

Summer NBR Hair Extensions

Also a part of the summertime shuffle… can we have a moment for all of the meltdowns that come from being out of normal routine? Summer is full of getting ready earlier or later, going to bed earlier or later, camp being different from school, etc. The Summer schedule looks nothing like the school year schedule, and it brings a lot of emotions with it. Even as adults, having a routine is super important. It helps us maintain habits and just generally feel good. It works for the same for kids, and I know mine function best when we have a routine in place.

Adjusting to summer-as-a-mom, and a working, business-owning mom at that, can be a little overwhelming. So many shifts happen when you become a parent, and things never really stop shifting. Kingston is about to start kindergarten in a few weeks and I’m sure it will bring plenty of its own new adjustments and learning curves. Moms, I would love to hear from you. How do you manage the ups and downs of Summer? What do you do to stick to a routine throughout the summer months? Let me know in the comments below!

If you live in North Carolina you know that the heat is real right now. Whenever it’s this hot in the Summer I have a few go-to looks that I wear pretty much all the time. They are all the perfect mix of chic and casual, and all accommodate for the melty temperatures outside.

Summer Swag

First up is summer dresses. I can’t get enough of a flowy dress in the summertime. Whether it’s short or long, it’s always lightweight, flowy, and I pretty much always pair it with sneaks. I opt for flowy because with heat comes sweat and lightweight dresses are one of the coolest clothing options available.

Summer Swag

Next up—this year I have been all about a super lightweight kimono paired with denim shorts. It’s casual and chill, but the kimono dresses it up and is a perfect way to look fashionable while feeling super comfy. I wear sneaks with this look a lot, too—pretty much all summer as I’m on the go constantly.

Summer Swag

My next latest obsession is athleisure wear. Anthropologie recently had a sale on their entire athleisure collection and I fell in love. They have longline sports bras that come down further which makes them perfect for wearing under lightweight flowy tanks, tees, and summer sweaters (for inside when the ac is too much), or as just a top with your fave leggings. Anthro also has lightweight sweatpants made just for summertime. I love these looks on my days off when I’m with my kids or running around doing all the things.
No matter what I’m wearing, my summer hair is all about how I can tie it up and what accessories I can use to dress it up.

I love a hairband and pony combo, a top knot and scarf, or a big summer braid. Thankfully, my NBR extensions can be worn in any style, which makes it super easy in the summer.

Essentially, Summer is all about comfort. Easy, breezy clothes, hair up off your neck, and casual everything. Check out my favorite athleisure pieces at anthropolgie.com. What’s your go-to Summer pieces?
Let me know in the comments below!

A couple of weeks ago I had the opportunity to meet someone who is a huge influence within the hair industry. If you’ve never heard of Chris Appleton, you’ve definitely seen his work. He works with everyone from the Kardashians to Rita Ora to JLo to Katy Perry.

He’s created signature looks that have become celebrity staples—like the 35” ponytail, the glass hair trend, and he’s known for his hair extensions looks. You may know Garnish’s numbers guru, Sahar, but what you may not know is that she is also hair obsessed and loves everything about the industry. When she found this event, we decided to venture up to DC together to attend.

The event combined education with styling demonstrations by Chris, him sharing his story within the industry, and then a VIP after party, which you know we definitely attended. During the education portion he talked to us about the styles he had created, and showed us some different signature looks.

My favorite part, however, was when he started sharing his story about how he came to be the influence he is today. He was living in the UK, but knew in order to achieve the goals he had set for himself that he really needed to be in LA. So without a contract or anything, he moved to LA on a whim. He talked about how everything about living here was different, but he just knew he needed to be here. This whole story resonated with the same things I talk about all the time—faith over fear and taking risks when you see your vision even if no one else does.

He also shared about how important resilience is, particularly in an ever-changing, highly competitive industry such as ours. This also struck a chord with how much change my business has gone through over the past couple of years. This idea of staying true to your vision, and being able to roll with the punches. He emphasized how important that is as you become more successful as well. It’s that do whatever it takes to make it happen mindset that I love so much.

Listening to Chris’s journey in the industry and some of the advice he offered allowed me to reflect on my own journey and how Garnish has evolved. I love that we share the same mentality towards vision and growth, and it’s always refreshing to hear someone who’s made it give the same advice that I share with my team and BMS students all the time.

I’m a huge believer in continuing to connect with other visionaries within the industry, and as you all know, I’m all about some continuing education. And of course, it’s always better when attending with bae.

I know we’ve recently transitioned into Cancer Season, but I still wanted to take a moment to talk about life as a Gemini. Yep, you read that right. I am a Gemini. I feel like Geminis get a bad rap, and every time I tell someone I’m a Gemini I get that definite side-eye look. We may be a little unorthodox, and we’re definitely perceived as crazy, but Geminis have a lot of fabulous traits as well.

Gemini - NBR Hair Extensions

Gemini - NBR Hair Extensions

I would say I share the typical true characteristics of a Gemini woman. I cannot stay still, I always have my hands in a bunch of different things, and there’s definitely a part of me that resonates with the “twins” of Gemini. My business/professional side of hustle mode versus my personal life side of me that wants to throw caution to the wind and just go.

Geminis talk a lot, love people, and our actions are often big and gradiose, which admittedly rubs people the wrong way sometimes. We can be a lot. And two Geminis together can either be great or really awful. My mom and I, for example, are both Geminis and work great together because we’re constantly doing all the things. I saw something once that said a Gemini’s trunk would be full of… roller blades, a swim towel, the Constitution of the United States, a toolbox, basically everything you can think of because we do so much all the time.

In fact, we have a tendency to take on too much, to start things and not finish them, and sort of be a jack of all trades rather than focusing on any one thing.

Gemini - NBR Hair Extensions

And that’s where I’ve chosen to divert from being a typical Gemini. I decided I wanted to settle down into being the master of one thing—my true passion, hair extensions. Once I made that decision, everything seemed to fall by the wayside and I knew that this was it. I’ve been specializing in exclusively extensions for around three years and my studio transitioned about six months ago, and I couldn’t be happier.

Gemini - NBR Hair Extensions

Reflecting on Gemini Season, which marks the halfway point through the year, I started reflecting on my business as well, along with everything we are looking forward to. The twin sides feel like they are perfectly aligned, and right now I’m feeling really good about being a crazy ass Gemini.

As you may know, last week was my birthday and I wanted to take a moment to share some of my reflections on turning 36. For a long time, every year for my birthday it was about going somewhere or doing something. Now I’ve reached a point in life where I choose to go nowhere and spend as much of the day relaxing as possible. I’m officially a Dream House Hermit. I absolutely love being in my space and I love inviting people into my space.

This year, my mom came over along with some friends and their kids and we all just had a good ass time. When it comes to my mom, well, I’m the apple that didn’t fall far—we love so much of the same things, the most important one for birthdays being creamy delicious alcoholic beverages. She made me drinks and kept things going all day
long.

NBR Hair Extensions

NBR Hair Extensions

What struck me the most about this particular day might seem like such a small thing, but to me it meant so much. We spent the entire afternoon at the pool. No big deal, right? Well, I have never lived in a community that had a pool that I could just go to. To me, it was amazing to just get to go sit out at the pool, relax, not stress about my kids because this pool also has a kiddie pool, and just be there.
Then there was the after-pool nap.

You know the kind. The soft nap where you’re not like totally asleep the whole time, but just completely chill. My mom took care of my littles to gift me with said soft nap and it. Was. Everything.

Overall, 36 feels pretty similar to 35, but I can feel that I’m approaching a different phase of my life. It’s become all about finding the quickest, simplest way to get to the end result.

And for the first time ever, I actually enjoy time off. I have always been so much of a workaholic that not only did I rarely take time off, when I did I could never relax and enjoy that time. I’m finally finding a work/life balance. Raise your drink of choice (mine is a mudslide) and let’s cheers to 36!

I wanted to let you all in on something that’s been happening behind the scenes and why it’s so important to me as an extension artist and leader within the company I work for. Over the past couple of years I’ve delved deeper into the company that is Natural Beaded Rows Extensions alongside their business program, BMS.

At the end of last year they invited me to be one of just four platform artists within their company and I have been a part of their top tier trainings ever since. Most recently, I’ve been working undercover on weekly live trainings. These trainings are an opportunity to connect with, mentor, and guide the 180 extension artists within BMS. As one of the platform artists, I wanted to share a little bit about what that entails.

NBR

More than anything I am able to be a resource and guide for fellow stylists. I answer questions throughout the day as people DM me, assist them with problems that need solving, and guide them on everything from the tools I use to the tricks I’ve learned. I also dedicate every Monday evening from 4 to 6 to be on a weekly live training. This training can consist of up to 180 people at one time.

The owner, Danielle, lead trainer, Ani, myself, and the other 3 platform artists all take turns contributing to the training. I get to share knowledge along with some of my experiences. I listen to what other artists are going through to get to the position where their business is more affluent and specializing in extensions, and I’m able to help them find their own answer to their problems.

Inside of our program, Mastermind, we have events quarterly that bring our whole group together to reset, assess, get out of our businesses and be able to work on them effectively. It’s a dedicated day every 3 months to come back in and get reinspired, talk to fellow BMS girls, other artists going through problems and challenges and get to reconnect with people. The first quarterly earlier this year was amazing, and I’m really looking forward to returning in June.

If you’ve read any of my past posts about conventions, the masterminds are a completely different experience. Convention is a lot of new people coming on board and getting acquainted with the method. With BMS intensives, it’s all artists who have been involved in the company and program, who have essentially jumped through hoops to be there. It’s a different caliber of artist, which helps elevate the experience.

I can’t wait to continue to share this journey with you as I feel so excited and honored to be one the four trainers chosen to lead and guide within this company and program. Stay tuned for an update following the June quarterly!

Today I wanted to bring you all a message that’s a little different from my usual.

You may or may not be aware that the month of May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Mental health has not always been something I put a lot of thought and effort into, but recently it’s been showing up for me with both myself and people I care about. I’ve been realizing just how challenging it can be, and how much effort it can really take to maintain a healthy mental state. As it has impacted my life, it has become very important to me to contribute to bringing awareness to the mental health struggle.

I wanted to bring in someone who is familiar with sharing her mental health experience to shine some light for you all on the importance of the conversation and some ways to manage your mental health. You may remember our former studio manager, Kassy. She shares about mental health and the reality of living with mental illness on her instagram (instagram.com/coffeewithkas), and I wanted to share her voice with you all.

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The thing about mental illness is that it sounds like such a scary word, but we all know and love someone living with it. And the reality is that more than half of those living with a mental illness are not being actively treated for it. Which means that so many of our family members, friends, and ourselves are all silently struggling through each day trying our best to self-manage in whatever ways we can.

The two most common mental illnesses are depression and anxiety, both of which can show up in different ways for different people. Particularly anxiety, which is a blanket term for a number of different disorders such as Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Seasonal Affective Disorder, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, all of which look and feel entirely different. It’s important to remember this fact when talking to someone living with the disorder as it may look different than you expect, and it may feel different to them than it does for you, or it did for your mom, best friend, etc.

No one set of coping mechanisms will work well for everyone, and finding the right formula for your particular mental health can be an ongoing process of trial and error. For many people medication is a vital ingredient to the formula that works for them, but for many others medication is not even an option. What works for someone with depression may not work for someone suffering from PTSD, but here’s just a small sampling of ways to contribute positively to your mental health.

Exercise


This could even mean taking a five minute walk in the sunshine, getting up from your desk to stretch, or dancing around in the kitchen while you cook dinner. Of course, the more traditional “working out” such as going to the gym or yoga or swimming works, too, but just moving helps. If you ever saw Legally Blonde you know all about how exercise gives you endorphins and endorphins make you feel better. This is why it’s always one of the first recommendations for mental illness. THAT SAID, part of depression and anxiety can be chronic fatigue, and exercise isn’t always a possiblity. Do what you can, give yourself grace when you can’t, and know that even a little bit makes a difference.

Meditation & Breathing Exercises

As cliché as this may sound, proper breathing techniques REALLY do make all the difference in the world for when you’re experiencing the physical symptoms of anxiety. Meditation and mindfulness, which focus on being present in the moment and utilizing awareness of your body and surroundings, also help negate the effects of anxiety.

Support System

This is absolutely crucial to maintaining your mental health and coping with mental illness. Whether this is family, friends, really great coworkers, or a combination of, having people to lean on when you’re not feeling well can make all the difference. Whether it’s just calling someone on the phone, or texting if that feels like too much, or if you’re able, meeting up for a cup of coffee, spending time with people who care about you can be a really great way to help counteract the feeling of being entirely alone in your struggle.
There are tons of different coping mechanisms and resources available. I encourage you to seek out what works for you and continue trying different combinations until you figure out the best fit.

More than anything else, though, I want to talk about “the conversation.” When it comes to mental illness there are huge amounts of stigma surrounding it, and coupled with the fact that people experiencing it often feel alone, it can be incredibly difficult to reach out for help. This is why so many people suffer in silence. It’s also why I passionately believe in being open and honest about how you’re feeling, even when you feel like “no one wants to hear that.”

As a culture, we’ve become so obsessed with the idea of “positivity” that we’ve forgotten how to empathize and recognize that “positive thinking” doesn’t make the pain of mental illness just go away. Of course, mindset can make a huge difference, but it’s all about balance. I believe one of the most powerful things we can do to help people heal is to be open and honest about our own struggles. It’s when we see our pain mirrored by others that we feel validated and no longer so alone.

If you’re experiencing depression, anxiety, PTSD, or something you don’t know how to describe or label, I encourage you to reach out to someone close to you. A partner, friend, parent or sibling. If you have someone in your life that you know is experiencing mental illness, reach out to them. Send them a text or a card, take them out for coffee, let them know that even if they don’t want to talk about it or know what to say that they are not alone.

If you don’t understand or don’t know what to say back, that’s okay, too. Just letting them know you are there can make all the difference. And if you hear someone else say that they are struggling, instead of staying quiet because it’s easier, have the courage to stand up, and say, “Hey, me too.” It’s only when we all start to share our stories that we begin to recognize how much of our pain is shared, and how much healing we can find in one another.

C A N D I C E G R A M

Owner of @GarnishHairStudio | Transformations are my Specialty | Fashion is a hobby | Fun is a Necessity
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